My mother messaged me today asking me if I'd do free work for the 100th anniversary of a local church. I'm super busy right now with clients, another degree I'm pursuing, and basically the stress of making enough money for rent (grownup stuff). Anyways she "asks me", I tell her I likely don't have time, and I get the guilt-trip and then the passive aggressive, "I'll do it myself" (she can't design). This is actually a project I might have considered saying yes to if I had time or wasn't being guilted into it. I'm usually the type of person who wants to help everybody - but I know right now I'm drowning in work old. How do you deal with this? She also made a comment pretty rashly, "I'll tell them you said no" as though it's my fault she approached me this way.
I think what made me angriest was she already assumed I'd do it.
"Will you do it? It's nothing complicated (yeah, bite me)"
"I'll send you the specs" (I haven't even said ok or maybe yet).
I complained, she said "Oh hush".
I'm infuriated. I'll call her later to explain that I'm just really busy, to tell me the timeframe of the project, and I'll let her know if I can commit, but I'm really sick of my mother always ASSUMING I will do work for her. This comes after I did the entire website, logo, and business signs for her business. I did it because they're my family, I want them to succeed, and I was living at home for a while - but, that doesn't mean I'm their bitch!
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Submitted August 03, 2018 at 01:25PM by Imperceptions https://ift.tt/2vdDFoY
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